Beliefs and Messages

Gran and Granddad came as a pair

Sadly yesterday my gran passed away after battling with cancer for 7 months as most people say that 'they lost the battle' I would rather think that they both drew and after all that fighting they were both tired. As I am currently away from home I never got to hold her hand or say a proper goodbye so I have wrote a letter on what I want to say to her. As like others I have grieved before and feel that this will help me personally cope with the lost of a loved one.

Dear Gran

Where ever you are I hope you are with friends, family and your beloved cat Jess who have all passed before you. I know you suffered like me from heights and wasn't keen on flying so I hope that the journey and the view is to your tasting. I have had the privilege of knowing you for a nearly a whole 20 years. When I look back at the time we spent together I normally think about the summer holidays when you were looking after me and we would spend the whole morning baking a chocolate cake, which was you specialty. It is going to be weird not having you around to keep grampy in check with the quick nudge and 'Oh Reg'. You both come in a pair as without one another you look lost which grampy looks like now. He has always said that 'you were lucky to marry him if not you would had been a spinster' well I think the truth be told that you were both lucky to have long loving marriage. Whilst you brought beauty and brains, Granddad brought the alcohol. Talking about the beauty and brains you had them both with you looking like you could be a model and the endless knowledge that you proved to me by completing crossword puzzles in record time or answering on The Chase. In your life you were blessed with having two beautiful children and one not so beautiful child (I leave you to figure who's who). Over the last few months you have taught me 'don't give up until the last breath'. You have put up such as battle and after calling it a draw you deserve a G&T as you bloody deserve it. I will try to look after grampy but something telling me you made the job look easy.

Love you always

The Quiet One

P.S The first crossword puzzle I will complete I will dedicate to you. 


After writing my letter it got me thinking about how certain people change your life. Along the way each special someone has told me or their actions have showed on what they believe is an important to them. I am always interested on where there beliefs originate from; this is normally from someone they look up to such as a family member.

Granny J

Zibby

"Care for any creature no matter how big or small"

This is my housemate and she said this the other day whilst rescuing a slug. Her mother taught this to her from an early age. What she said had made me today save an ant that was in our kitchen as I believe in the butterfly effect that if you change on thing it will effect other. Now I know that saving one measly ant will not change the world but it might have had an important role in the community therefore saving an important member or it might have been lazy either way it lived another day.

Carys

"Think outside the box, the more unique the better"

This is my best friend from primary school so I have known her most of my life. Now she never said any of this, she didn't have too. She is never afraid to try something new either with fashion or actual work, she is always ahead of the crowd doing things that the other haven't even thought of yet. I remember we were being taught HTML and we had to build a website for a project. Now everyone in the class built theirs on HTML whilst she went ahead and done her using Action Script 3.0, the effort she put in defiantly showed and earned her the highest grade.

Dad

"Care for others as you don't know when you might need help. It is best to put others first"

My dad has always said and done this. An example is he always made sure that my gran and granddad were ok such as doing a bit of gardening.

Mum

"Always smile, even when times are tough"

My mum was known for being a smiley person even when in the past she has dealt with some tough situations. She never let people see how sad or angry she was because she was always smiling and helping other people. When she passed away people wrote in the cards how she was a happy person and it was a joy to see her as she was always smiling.

Grampy B

"Don't touch what is not yours"

My granddad always hated people touching things that weren't theirs, such as in a shop a cousin of mine who would always pick stuff up even if he had no interest in it. I feel this saying can relate to a lot of things in life.

Granny B

"Don't let things make you bitter it is best to forgive and forget"

My gran said this to me when I was having a hard time a couple of years ago and this has always stuck in my head. Even though it is hard to let things go it is better in the long run. I have now learnt to forgive people and situations from past which has helped me get where I am today.

Granny J

"Don't give up the fight until your last breath"

When my gran found out she had incurable cancer she was give 3 months to live which led to everyone expecting the worst so we threw a big family party to celebrate her life. She actual made it to 7 months, which was very impressive given her age.

Katy

"Work hard and rewards will come"

My friend has always been hard working with both education and actual work. She currently has two jobs which means she works 6 days a week with the occasional babysitting at night. She was recently nominated and came fourth on the best nanny in Great Britain where she only started full time working as a nanny two years ago. She is incredibly talented at her job and puts so much effort that every around can see what a truly great person she is.

Granddad J

"Always have a laugh. Don't take life to seriously"

My granddad has always been a funny man and still is. He has always said stuff out load before he had time to think about what he has just said. He also has very funny moments that make the whole family laugh such as when my gran was in hospital he had to do some clothes washing for the first time. He put all the clothes in the machine with the right soap but when he had to turn it on and set the heat he was looking at the oven dials, which were next to the washing machine.

Me

"You only know how strong you are when the going gets tough"

I believe in this saying, as you don't realise your actual strength until you need both physically and emotionally. Of course my friends have been through different experiences than I, which you cannot compare but each has tested out their personal strength. I find it amazing that it is hidden away until you really need it.

Gran and Granddad